Between Me and My Friend Mark
Mark, August 18 at 9:37am
Hey Cathleen, thanks for reaching out. I’m good, been a tough week, but I’m tough! Doing my best to take care of my mom’s affairs (she’s in a nursing home), and it’s super-stressful.
Cathleen, August 19 at 12:15pm
Sorry to hear about your mom- been there done that. I trust she’s comfortable- I’m sure the NH was the best choice for everybody.
Mark, August 19 at 3:00pm
As far as mom, if it were not for modern medical techniques she would have passed long ago. My concern now is for her quality of life, I’m not sure if she would have wanted to merely “exist” as she does now. The most frustrating thing is dealing with my brothers and sisters who’ve drawn lines in the sand. Terribly frustrating!
Cathleen , August 20 at 10:08am
You might want to have a family meeting, moderated by an independent third party, and get a family agreement about what to do and when to do it about Mom. Too bad she did not have a living will. If reason fails, make the ones who won’t let her go pay for her “simulated aliveness”. Money usually makes people wake up.
Cathleen, August 20 at 10:15am
Also, regarding your Mom…you might want to consider having yourself or someone else appointed as her guardian. Then that person can make all the decisions without the familial undermining.
Mark, August 20 at 12:24pm
Thanks. All those processes re: Mom are in the works.